What is Anxiety?
Anxiety is not a thing, it does not exist in reality, you can’t touch it, you can only feel it. Anxiety is just a feeling, an emotion. What is an emotion? E – Motion = energy in motion, and the energy you experience in an emotion is just a thought.
Who experiences your thoughts and Anxiety?
So if you feel anxious, if you are having a thought about something and it makes you feel anxiety, who is having that thought? Is it you, is it your mind, or is it your personality? And how can a thought that has no reality make you feel anything?
You are not your mind or your Anxiety!
It took me a long time to realise that I am not my mind. I used say things to my self like ” I can’t make my mind up” or ” I’m in two minds about this”. If you think about the phrase I can’t make my mind up it points to the fact that my mind is something that I have. It is not me. Just like I have a car, that car is not me, I have a house but that house is not me.
You might say but those are just worldly things and they are not you. Ok, so I have a hand, but it is not me,
it is a part of me. I have a leg, but it is not me, it is a part of me, just like my mind is just a part of me.
If I am not my mind then who am I? I am the one that sees and hears the thoughts that arise, the good ones and the not so good ones. I feel happy when the good thoughts arise and sad when the bad ones appear.
So it follows that I feel my thoughts, good or bad. I am the observer of my thoughts – I am conscious of my thoughts, therefore I am able to observe and be conscious and have awareness of all and any thoughts that arise.
Thoughts come and go – even anxious ones!
Where do thoughts come from? Who knows, but the fact is thoughts arise all day every day into our awareness. I read somewhere that we have anywhere from eighty to one hundred thousand thoughts a day, maybe even more – I wonder who counted them and how they did it?
Most of those thoughts come and go without much importance placed on them. I may think what shall I have for breakfast? I decide, prepare and eat my breakfast, and then dismiss the thought, it has no power over me, it was a neutral thought, and then I just move on the next thought. And so it goes throughout my day.
However every now and then a different thought will arise into my awareness. Maybe I think about an upcoming event that I have to deal with. All of a sudden, my thoughts start to run away with me, they take me on a journey and I imagine a scenario that I find frightening, full of what ifs, full of fear and dread!
Dreaming of Anxiety
Sometimes I get carried away and “dream up” all sorts of horrible outcomes. My heart starts to beat faster, adrenaline does its job of getting me ready to freeze, fight or take flight, it snowballs out of my control, I feel anxious, frightened, I might even feel like a panic attack is about to strike – or so I think in that moment.
Yet other times I become conscious, aware that in reality nothing has actually happened and probably never will, my heart beat slows and my body returns to rest as does my mind. I have taken back control by being aware that I was just feeling a thought. When I become aware of what is happening that is when I return to my natural state of peace of mind.
So does that mean that when we feel anxious we are not actually in danger? Are we just out of touch with what is really happening, telling ourselves a made up story? Perhaps we are allowing our thoughts to take over and run riot, creating negative emotions that make us feel bad in some way. Because in reality we are still safe and nothing bad has actually happened.
So who is feeling your Anxiety?
The answer for me, is my consciousness, the part of me that sees and feels my thoughts as reality. And as you will discover in a the next post, reality is no more real than your thoughts!
Thanks for reading my ramblings. They may not be scientifically proven, but they are real to me! Whatever my reality is…and these conclusions have helped me to understand anxiety…
These understandings have helped me to help countless people dissolve their anxiety. And helping people break free of an anxious life has become my passion.
Seeing someone emerge out of a life of dread into peace of mind is just the best emotion to have…..
With your peace of mind in mind
So if you want to stop feeling anxious call me on 07810 877158. Or email me via the contact form on my website at www.hypnotherapypetersfield.co.uk for a free 20 minutes consultation. What have you got to lose?